"Infidelity is an extremely isolating experience," she says. Tuesday Malone, a married mum who writes about her affair with a married man at, blogs for similar reasons. "People wrongly assume that someone who cheats doesn't love their spouse." Amy began blogging to explore whether other people shared her view that loving her husband and having affairs were equally legitimate parts of her life, and she soon found a virtual community of supportive, like-minded bloggers. "The prevailing attitude towards infidelity is: 'Work it out at home,'" she says. ), a much-needed emotional outlet to talk about her affairs. Having a community of people in similar circumstances makes it less isolating."īlogging also gave Amy, the author of My Married Life ( "In one way or another, their marriages no longer work but they don't want to leave because of the broader implications. "The thing that has amazed me most about other bloggers is that they are all just ordinary people trying to make the most of their situations," she says. "Blogging was a safe way to find people who could relate to my circumstances without it affecting my ordinary life." For her, infidelity blogging isn't a brazen attempt to flaunt unfaithfulness but is instead inspired by the need to know you're normal, and not alone.
"Most of my friends know my husband so I couldn't talk to them about my affair," she confides. Shelly's blog is one of a growing number of "infidelity blogs" which attract a loyal online following.Ĭallie, a wife and mother who blogs anonymously about her affair with a married man, agrees. What makes Shelly distinct is the fact that she is cheating on her husband and writes candidly about it online (at ) under a pseudonym. Marriages that have gone off the boil are also not a rarity – therapist Shirley P Glass states in her book Not Just Friends that one or both parties in 50 per cent of all couples will be unfaithful, and adultery remains the most common reason cited by divorcing couples. Even happily married couples might wince in recognition at those moments of irrational fury that can accompany long-term relationships. Even the way he moves in bed makes me want to stab myself in the eye with a fork."įork-induced eye injuries notwithstanding, these admissions don't necessarily mark Shelly's marriage out as unusual. If he leaves the dishes expectantly in the sink, it makes me furious. Our love-making is performed mostly out of habit. But it isn't exciting or even interesting any more. Maybe that's the problem – things are fine. "I am married, rather begrudgingly, to a man who no longer makes me feel anything," writes Shelly in her blog, Confessions of a Wayward Wife.
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